How your relationship with money help you build the life you want
It is not always about how much money you have. Sometimes, it is about what you believe about money, how you treat it, and the decisions you make with it.
Have you ever wondered why two people can earn almost the same amount of money but have completely different financial lives?
One person earns ₦200,000 and somehow manages to save, invest, plan and gradually build financial security.
Another earns ₦500,000 but is constantly borrowing, struggling with expenses and wondering where the money went.
Then their income increases.
The first person becomes more financially stable.
The second person simply increases their spending.
What is the difference?
Sometimes, it isn’t income.
It is their relationship with money.
Your relationship with money influences how you earn it, spend it, save it, invest it, borrow it, protect it and plan with it.
And if your relationship with money doesn’t change, giving you more money may not change your financial life as much as you expect.
WHAT DOES “YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH MONEY” MEAN?
Your relationship with money is the collection of your:
- Beliefs about money.
- Spending habits.
- Saving habits.
- Financial fears.
- Financial priorities.
- Attitudes toward wealth.
- Approach to risk.
- Money discipline.
- Financial goals.
- Decisions when you receive unexpected money.
For example, someone may believe:
“Money is meant to be enjoyed.”
Another may believe:
“I must save every kobo because money can disappear at any time.”
Someone may think:
“I need to look successful.”
Another may think:
“I would rather build quietly than impress people.”
Neither statement automatically makes someone financially successful.
The important question is:
Does your relationship with money help you build the life you want?
YOUR MONEY HABITS OFTEN REVEAL YOUR MONEY MINDSET
You don’t have to tell someone how you think about money.
Your financial behaviour may already be telling the story.
If you receive money and immediately start shopping, your behaviour reveals something.
If you consistently save before spending, that reveals something.
If you avoid looking at your bank statements because you’re afraid of what you’ll see, that reveals something.
If you constantly borrow to maintain your lifestyle, that reveals something.
If you invest without understanding what you’re investing in because you don’t want to “miss out,” that reveals something too.
Money is not just mathematics.
It is also psychology.
1. IF YOU SEE MONEY ONLY AS SOMETHING TO SPEND, IT WILL BE DIFFICULT TO BUILD WITH IT
Money can buy things.
Food.
Clothes.
Phones.
Cars.
Entertainment.
Travel.
Experiences.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with enjoying money responsibly.
You work for it.
But if every naira that enters your hands immediately becomes something to consume, you may struggle to build lasting financial security.
Instead, learn to see money in three ways:
Money can be used to LIVE.
You need it for your current needs.
Money can be used to PROTECT.
You need savings and appropriate financial preparation for unexpected situations.
Money can be used to BUILD.
You can use appropriate investments, business opportunities and other productive assets to pursue long-term goals.
The goal isn’t to stop spending.
It’s to stop making spending your only financial strategy.
2. YOUR ABILITY TO DELAY GRATIFICATION MATTERS
Imagine you have ₦100,000 today.
You could spend it all immediately.
Or you could spend part, save part and put another portion toward a meaningful financial goal.
The second option requires something many people struggle with:
Delayed gratification.
It means being willing to say:
“I could spend this now, but I have something more important I’m building.”
This doesn’t mean denying yourself everything.
It means learning to distinguish between:
What I want now
and
What I want more in the future.
Financial growth often requires choosing the second.
3. IF YOU ARE ALWAYS TRYING TO IMPRESS PEOPLE, YOUR MONEY MAY NEVER BE ENOUGH
Social pressure can be expensive.
Someone buys a new phone.
You want one.
Someone changes their car.
You feel behind.
Someone travels.
You start feeling like you need to travel too.
Someone moves into a bigger house.
Suddenly, your current home doesn’t feel good enough.
The problem?
You’re allowing other people’s lifestyles to determine your financial decisions.
But you don’t know their full financial story.
You see the car.
You may not see the loan.
You see the holiday.
You may not see the debt.
You see the designer clothes.
You may not see the financial stress behind them.
Don’t spend your future trying to prove that you’re doing well today.
Build according to your goals, income and circumstances.
4. YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH MONEY AFFECTS HOW YOU HANDLE EXTRA INCOME
What happens when you receive unexpected money?
A bonus?
A business profit?
A gift?
A commission?
An increase in salary?
A successful business month?
For some people:
More money = more spending.
For others:
More money = more building.
This doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy additional income.
But consider creating a rule for yourself.
For example:
When your income increases, allocate part of the increase toward:
- Savings.
- Debt reduction.
- Business growth.
- Investment.
- Retirement preparation.
- Other important financial goals.
Then enjoy an appropriate portion.
Let your lifestyle grow more slowly than your financial capacity.
That’s one way to prevent lifestyle inflation from consuming every increase in income.
5. YOUR FEAR OF MONEY CAN ALSO HOLD YOU BACK
Not every unhealthy relationship with money involves excessive spending.
Some people are so afraid of losing money that they refuse to learn about financial opportunities altogether.
They keep everything in one place because:
“What if I lose it?”
The fear is understandable.
But avoiding financial education doesn’t eliminate risk.
It can create another risk: making uninformed decisions.
Instead of allowing fear to control you, learn.
Understand:
- Different financial products.
- Risk and return.
- Diversification.
- Liquidity.
- Fees.
- Time horizons.
- Investment terms.
Don’t invest because someone promises quick wealth.
And don’t avoid every opportunity simply because you’re afraid.
Understand first. Then decide.
6. YOUR MONEY SHOULD HAVE A PURPOSE
Have you ever received money without knowing exactly what you wanted to do with it?
That money can disappear quickly.
But give money a purpose and your decisions become easier.
For example:
₦20,000 → Emergency savings
₦30,000 → Business capital
₦10,000 → Personal enjoyment
₦15,000 → Long-term financial goal
The exact figures depend entirely on your income and responsibilities.
The principle is what matters:
Give your money instructions before your emotions give it instructions.
7. SAVING IS NOT JUST A MONEY HABIT, IT IS A MINDSET
Some people say:
“I don’t earn enough to save.”
Sometimes that’s genuinely true, especially when income barely covers essential needs.
But in other cases, saving is postponed because there is no deliberate system.
Instead of asking:
“What will I have left at the end of the month?”
try asking:
“What can I reasonably set aside before I begin spending?”
Even if the amount is small, you’re building the habit of keeping some money for future needs.
As your income increases, you can review the amount.
The goal is not to start big.
The goal is to start intentionally and remain consistent.
8. YOUR ATTITUDE TOWARD DEBT MATTERS
Debt is not automatically evil.
There are situations where borrowing can be useful.
But debt becomes dangerous when borrowing becomes a lifestyle.
If you borrow for everything:
New phone.
Rent.
Clothes.
Parties.
Vacations.
Everyday expenses.
You may eventually discover that your future income is already committed to paying for your past decisions.
Before borrowing, ask:
Why am I borrowing?
What will this money accomplish?
What is the total repayment cost?
Can I comfortably repay it?
What happens if my income changes?
A healthy relationship with money includes knowing when to say:
“No, I cannot afford this right now.”
That’s not failure.
That’s financial maturity.
9. YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH MONEY DETERMINES HOW YOU HANDLE FINANCIAL MISTAKES
Everyone makes financial mistakes.
You may buy something you later regret.
You may invest in the wrong opportunity.
You may overspend.
You may take on unnecessary debt.
You may fail to save when you should have.
The worst response is:
“I’m just bad with money.”
Don’t turn one mistake into an identity.
Instead ask:
What happened?
Why did I make that decision?
What did it cost me?
What can I do differently next time?
A financial mistake can become expensive tuition if you learn from it.
10. STOP CONFUSING INCOME WITH WEALTH
A high income is useful.
But income and wealth are not the same thing.
Income is what you receive.
Wealth is what you build and retain over time.
Someone can earn a large salary and have little savings or assets.
Someone else may earn less but consistently save, invest appropriately, manage debt and accumulate productive assets.
That’s why the question shouldn’t only be:
“How much do you earn?”
Ask:
“How much do you keep?”
“What are you building?”
“What assets are you accumulating?”
“How financially prepared are you?”
11. LEARN TO MAKE YOUR MONEY WORK TOWARD YOUR GOALS
Money sitting idle has a role.
You may need readily accessible savings for emergencies or short-term needs.
But over longer periods, many people also consider appropriate investment options to pursue growth.
The key word is:
Appropriate.
Don’t put money into something simply because someone says:
“This will double your money quickly.”
Understand the risks.
Understand the terms.
Understand how returns are generated.
Understand when you can access your money.
Understand what happens if things don’t go according to plan.
Financial intelligence comes before financial action.
12. YOUR MONEY RELATIONSHIP SHOULD INCLUDE YOUR FUTURE SELF
One of the biggest financial mistakes people make is thinking only about today.
Today’s enjoyment matters.
But tomorrow matters too.
Ask yourself:
“What will the 40-year-old me need?”
“What will the 50-year-old me need?”
“What will retirement look like?”
“Will I have options?”
“Will I have to depend entirely on my children?”
“What financial foundation am I building now?”
You don’t have to know exactly what the future will look like.
You simply need to prepare for it.
CHANGE YOUR MONEY LANGUAGE
Sometimes changing your financial life begins with changing the questions you ask.
Instead of:
❌ “Can I afford this?”
Ask:
✅ “Should this be a priority right now?”
Instead of:
❌ “How can I look successful?”
Ask:
✅ “How can I become financially secure?”
Instead of:
❌ “When I earn more, I’ll start saving.”
Ask:
✅ “How can I build a saving habit with what I earn now?”
Instead of:
❌ “How can I get rich quickly?”
Ask:
✅ “How can I build sustainable wealth?”
Instead of:
❌ “What can my money buy me?”
Ask:
✅ “What can my money help me build?”
Better questions lead to better decisions.
A PRACTICAL MONEY RELATIONSHIP CHECK-UP
Take five minutes and answer these honestly.
1. Do I know exactly where most of my money goes?
2. Do I save consistently?
3. Do I have clear financial goals?
4. Do I spend to impress people?
5. Do I borrow unnecessarily?
6. Do I have an emergency savings strategy?
7. Do I understand the financial products I use?
8. Do I increase my spending whenever my income increases?
9. Am I preparing for long-term financial needs?
10. If I suddenly received ₦1 million today, what would I do with it?
Your answers can reveal a lot about your current relationship with money.
HOW TO BUILD A HEALTHIER RELATIONSHIP WITH MONEY
You don’t need to transform everything overnight.
Start small.
STEP 1: KNOW YOUR NUMBERS
Understand your income, expenses, debts, savings and financial obligations.
STEP 2: DEFINE YOUR PRIORITIES
Know what you’re building toward.
STEP 3: CREATE A MONEY SYSTEM
Decide how much goes toward necessities, savings, goals and responsible enjoyment.
STEP 4: CONTROL IMPULSE SPENDING
Give yourself time before making unnecessary purchases.
STEP 5: BUILD YOUR EARNING POWER
Learn skills that can increase your ability to create value and earn income.
STEP 6: EDUCATE YOURSELF
Don’t make financial decisions you don’t understand.
STEP 7: START BUILDING
Save consistently and consider appropriate investment opportunities based on your goals, risk tolerance and circumstances.
STEP 8: REVIEW REGULARLY
Your financial plan should evolve as your income, responsibilities and goals change.
THE REAL GOAL ISN’T TO LOVE MONEY
You don’t need to worship money.
You don’t need to chase money at the expense of your health, family or values.
You don’t need to become obsessed with becoming rich.
You need to understand money.
Respect it.
Manage it.
Give it purpose.
Use it responsibly.
And allow it to support the things that genuinely matter to you.
Because money is a tool.
A tool becomes powerful when the person using it knows how to use it.
DAREMU BUSINESS WORLD LTD IS URGING YOU TO CHANGE YOUR MONEY MINDSET, CHANGE YOUR FINANCIAL DIRECTION
At Daremu Business World Ltd, we believe financial freedom starts with education, discipline and practical action.
You don’t have to wait until you earn millions before you start thinking differently about money.
Start with what you have.
Learn how to manage it.
Develop your earning capacity.
Build saving habits.
Understand investments.
Prepare for the future.
Create financial goals.
And make decisions that move you closer to the life you want.
Through Daremu’s focus on Business Investments, Savings, Trading and Influencing, the goal is to encourage people to think beyond simply receiving money and start thinking about how money can be managed and directed toward meaningful financial goals.
Our Daremu Retirement Savings Plan also provides an avenue for people to intentionally think about long-term financial preparation.
As with any financial decision, understand the terms, risks and suitability before committing your money.
Because financial freedom isn’t simply about having more money.
It’s about becoming better at managing the money that comes into your hands.
SO, ASK YOURSELF THIS TODAY:
If your income doubled tomorrow…
Would your financial life improve, or would your expenses simply double too?
Your answer may reveal something important.
Because sometimes, the financial breakthrough we’re waiting for isn’t simply:
“More money.”
It is:
A better relationship with the money we already have.
Change the way you think.
Change the way you plan.
Change the way you spend.
Change the way you save.
Change the way you prepare.
And gradually, you may discover that your money can take you much further than you ever imagined.
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